Jul 24, 2019

How Can You Tell if a Woman Watches Porn?

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By now, most of us know that men aren’t the only ones who enjoy porn. Women are watching porn in record numbers. Thanks to changing attitudes about sex and the female libido, more and more women are comfortable exploring their sexualities with a little visual stimulus.  In fact, women are watching so much porn now, they are driving porn trends in the industry! 

This is great news if you’re a guy who loves watching porn with your partner (or a lady who dates ladies, we at Coupons don’t judge). However, while men viewing porn is extremely normalized, there’s still more stigma attached for women. So how do you know if a potential partner is chill with porn? Given the potential benefits of watching porn with a partner, this could be good information to know! Are there any tricks, or do you just have to come right out and say, “Hi, my name is Bob and I like porn. How about you?”

There are a few slightly more subtle ways of gaging a woman’s comfort level with porn without flat out asking her.  Putting her on the spot with such a personal, sexually explicit question might make her uncomfortable. She might not give you an honest answer.  Hell, if you really misread the situation, you could end up with a drink in your face! Here are some helpful tips to avoid that situation, while still finding out if she’s into porn:

What’s Appropriate


Depending on how intimate your relationship with the woman is, some of these techniques may be more appropriate than others.  All of these techniques are designed to be used on women who you already know to some degree, and you have reason to believe are comfortable discussing sex with you. You don’t want to try any of these with a coworker - or, god forbid, an employee - around the office cooler, unless you really want to get hit with a sexual harassment lawsuit! So be warned, and proceed with caution. 

These techniques are best used with someone you’re already intimate with.  These might work well if you’re in an existing romantic relationship, and trying to broach the subject of watching porn together.  They could also be considered if you have a flirty relationship with someone, where sex is a comfortable topic of discussion. They could even work with a close female friend who’s open to discussing her personal life. You don’t want to try these on a first date or random party crush, because again, the whole point of this list is to break the ice and discuss porn in a way that’s comfortable for both parties. 

Technique #1 - The Fake Friend

If you’re in an environment where an NSFW image is appropriate, you can find an amusing pornographic image or video.  You’ll want to find something with humor. Have the image ready to go in advance. Then just look at your phone, laugh or smile at the image, and wait for her to react.  When she asks you what’s so funny, say something along the lines of, “Oh! My friend’s such a perv! Check out the link he just sent me!” and show her the image. Gage her reaction. Is she amused? Grossed out? How long does she look? What does she say about it? If she seems into it, this could be a good time to ask if she watches porn.

Technique #2: Reddit is my Friend

Not into deceiving your potential partner? Good for you! Instead of pretending that a friend just sent you a pervy link, you could choose a moment you’re both browsing your phones and find something naughty on Reddit to share with your female companion.  Like the situation above, you want to find something humorous, or with artistic value. Make sure you have an audible reaction, and when she asked about it, say, “Oh! Nothing… I just found this image on Reddit. It’s kinda dirty, but it’s super funny/cool/beautiful/etc.  Wanna see?”

Technique #3: Casual Convo

Chances are if you’re a dude, whoever this woman is, she already knows you watch porn. Most people assume that all men watch porn, with very rare exceptions.  You probably won’t be shocking her if you cop to your porn habit.  The best way to get her to open up about porn might be to lead by example. This technique requires some decent conversation skills, as you want to come off as casual and nonchalant.  Find a way to drop porn into the conversation. For example, if you pass by a natural history museum, point it out. After the conversation is flowing a bit, you could say, “Oh man! That reminds me of this crazy pterodactyl porn I saw once!” (Haven’t seen it, no problem! You can find it in pornhub. You’re welcome!). She’ll probably either ask what the hell you’re talking about or say “oh my god! That video is nuts!” Either way, you are now discussing porn. Congrats! 

Technique #4: Industry Terms

This technique might be your best bet if the lady in question isn’t someone you know quite as well.  If this is an early date or Tinder convo, you might not want to lay everything out there. If you have the conversational skill set, you can find a way to work a porn industry term into a regular conversation.  Preferably, this should be used in a fairly PG way, and ideally be humorous. Certain terms like BBW, MMF, and CFNM are pretty specific to the porn industry.  If you spill your drink on yourself, you could say, “Oh man! I’d better clean this up. Don’t want it to look like a Bukkake film up in here!” Is she laughs, there’s a good chance she knows the term and probably watches porn. This might be a good sign to cautiously proceed to one of the other techniques.