Watching Porn With a Partner

As more states seek to declare porn a public health crisis, we at Coupons are here to remind you that porn is a totally normal, healthy part of a robust sex life. Porn is practically ubiquitous - accessed by millions of men, and women, around the world and there is simply no evidence that watching porn does any harm. To the contrary, as we discussed in a previous post, science is firmly on the side of porn and many studies suggest that watching porn can be beneficial. This is doubly true if you are one of those lucky people who are able to watch porn with a partner.

While the anti-porn fear mongers will have you believe that porn will ruin your relationship with their ridiculous PR campaigns. When you look at the facts, far from killing love, watching porn can actually help foster it. We mentioned this in our Valentine’s Day post, but it bears repeating: watching porn with a partner is a beautiful thing!

Top 4 Reasons to Watch Porn with a Partner:

1) Spice Up Your Sex Life

This is probably the most obvious reason to try watching porn with a partner for the first time. Hell, it’s the go-to reason to add any new element to your a member of a happy couple! Like it or not, no matter how red hot the sex may be at the beginning of a relationship, it can be a real challenge not to fall into a comfortable (but also maybe, if you're 100%honest) slightly dull routine. Adding porn into the mix can really shake things up a bit and reignite some of the passion that might have been simmering away on the back burner. Obviously, this isn't unique to porn. Adding any new technique, outfit, discussion or activity can add variety and a renewed sense of fun to your sex life, but porn is special. Not only is watching porn with a partner in and of itself a sexy new activity for many couples, but it can also help you learn about other new things you can try on each other. Which brings us to reason #2.

2) Learn New Techniques

Sure, porn might not always be the most realistic presentation of sex and there are probably things that professional pornstars can do that you and your partner might not be up for (or physically capable of, in some instances), but even though porn is all about fantasy, it can certainly provide some real-life inspiration! After all, the models are real people. Their bodies are real. The sex they are having is real. In the age of abstinence-only sex education, we are taught from an early age to fear sex. We hear about diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and shame. While there are always risks, none of those are what sex is about. Porn is here to teach us about pleasure. It can provide an in-depth, up-close anatomy lesson. You can see everything in stunning, high def detail without having to awkwardly examine your partner while you figure things out. I know it’s a clique to talk about men who can’t find the clitoris, but according to a recent study, half of all men (and almost as many women) couldn’t even identify the vagina on an anatomical diagram. If you’re heterosexual, and you want to be having good sex, it might be a good time to brush up on female anatomy.  Of course, porn is traditionally all about male pleasure (though there is plenty of stuff geared towards women these days), so there are tons of videos out there that show you new and exciting techniques for pleasuring male parts as well.  There are so many new positions, fantasies, lingerie, phrases… you name it, porn has it. You and your partner are bound to find something new you’ll want to try together!  Porn can really open the floodgates, so to speak when it comes to sexual creativity.

3) Improve Communication

In addition to getting ideas, watching porn together can give you both the vocabulary and the confidence to discuss sexual pleasure with your partner. Maybe you aren’t super into the German dungeon porn you just watched together, but even talking about what you don’t like can help increase sexual pleasure. You and your partner might also be emboldened to discuss things that do really turn you on. The secret fantasies your partner has been harboring may surprise you. Hell, you may even surprise yourself when your partner shows you something that unexpectedly turns you on.  Maybe the dungeon porn didn’t do it, but maybe you were both really into watching a guy getting rammed with a strapon. Or maybe you were both really turned on by the sexy blond model, and damned if she doesn’t look like the hot bartender from down the street. Even if you never end up acting out these fantasies, just talking about them can improve your sex life and your relationship in general. That’s because…

4) Help foster Intimacy

Trying something new with your partner, learning about their body, improving your sex life and your communication can only make you closer to your partner. So what are you waiting for? Talk to your partner today, and if you aren’t sure how to open up a dialog, you can always consider sharing this article with them!