Do Women Really Enjoy Seeing Men Cum?

The money shot - no modern porn is complete without it. Rising to popularity in the 1970s and completely taking the adult industry by storm, the cumshot has become the traditional punctation that concludes nearly every porn scene involving at least one man. It has spread throughout pop culture and is even depicted in a handful of more mainstream films and TV shows, such as Girls, Sex and the City and Californication.  As porn itself becomes more mainstream, more and more couples are imitating the intimate acts they see depicted in xxx movies. Before rushing out and cumming all over your girl’s face, you’re probably wondering how she might actually feel about such an act. 

Of course, the only way to know for sure is to ask her, and you absolutely should ask her. However, you can rest assured that many women are completely receptive to such things and, in fact, enjoy a good cumshot as much as you do! Cum fetishes among women are pretty common. 

There are many reasons a lady might be into seeing your hot, sticky seed spread all over the place. For one, women are watching more than ever and, for many, continued exposure to the ubiquitous cumshot has sparked curiosity, or even full-blown fetishization.  Other women simply enjoy the sensation. Many enjoy seeing the physical manifestation of their partner’s pleasure. However, like most fetishes, for most, there is an element of control.  

The desire to visibly cum on a woman, particularly when it comes to the controversial facial, is often about dominance and control. Many feminists and sex experts decry the facial as “demeaning to women.”  However, as sex coach Dr. Patti Britton points out in a 2011 interview with Miami New Times, it is up to each woman (including pornstars) to decide what is and is not demeaning for her.  However, for many, this begs the question, if cumming on a woman is about control, how can the woman wanting a man to cum on her also be about control?

The simple answer is that control in the bedroom is not like pie. It is not a zero-sum game. One partner having it does not preclude the other partner from also having control. In an ideal sexual relationship, both partners feel like they have agency and power. A man can feel a certain dominance by covering his partner in cum, and a woman can feel at the height of sexual prowess by making her partner explode all over her. 

Unlike some fetishes I’ve written about in the past, this is one I have some experience with. I had a long term relationship with a man who had difficulty cumming. Yes, that is a thing some men struggle with. During and immediately after that relationship, I became mildly obsessed with cum - both watching the act, and the physical substance. For me, it was about watching him lose control for that moment upon climax - more precisely about my ability to make him lose control, or at least his willingness to let me make him lose control in that moment. 

Not all women share my interest in jizz as a physical substance. However, if this popular ReadIt thread is to be believed, there are plenty who do.  One guy came to ReadIt looking for reassurance that this was something women legitimately enjoyed, and didn’t just put up with out of obligation. He received a ton of responses from women like, “I just love cum!” and “ I love cumshots in porn, whether it's a facial or creampie, etc. There is just something so deliciously dirty and primal about being covered in each other's juices.” 

Of course, women vary on their favorite location for a man to cum. Some women love facials, others are more into creampies, others would rather see a man’s member erupt like Vesuvius in her hands or on her belly. The key thing here is communication. Talk to your partner. Let her know what you’re into, and give her space to tell you what she wants.

Whether or not you and your partner are ready to try out this iconic pornstar-inspired act in your own bedroom, there are other ways to enjoy cumshots together. Watching porn with your partner can be an amazing way to energize your sex life. If you’re looking for some inspiration, cumshotreviewer.com has an amazing collection of the best cumshot porn around. If you’re looking for quality handjob porn, they also have a great roundup of those scenes.